why are some people like this

[bigoggy]

as some of you know 2 of our kids are disabled.

they have learning dificulties as well as other problems, today we were out with the 2 youngest, and our 3 year old who has a mental age of 1 fell over, she also has hypermobily syndrome, so when she falls over her joints swell up badly.

when she fell her knee and ankle swelled up, now we know the best thing to do is leave her alone and the swelling will go down in a day or two, (it's not ideal, but that's what it takes). however we were at a local tourist attraction that was quite busy.

when she fell she cried very loudly, becouse she can only say a few words this is how she communicates that something is wrong. as you can imagine she drew a bit of attention.

i picked her up, looked at her knee and ankle, and found she was ok except for the swelling, so i picked her up and started to carry her.

this is where the problems start, 2 people who had seen what happened came up to us and said we were bad parents, and should call an ambulance.

we explained that she is dissabled and that we just needed to leave her to rest.

the man then said "well she don't look like a spaz dissabled kid to me", we tried to explain that not all dissabled people look dissabled, they just kept shouting and calling us bad parents.

while this was happening someone else had fetched a ranger who works in the park, he also failed to understand that we know what was best for our daughter, when we said we were leaving he told us he would call the police if we didn't let him call an ambulance.

i told him to go ahead and call the police, and he actually did.

this is where the story gets fun, when the police attended, they were told that we had refused treatment, were bad parents ect...

the police then came to talk to us, when we explained about our daughter been dissabled and her condition, to our shock one of the cops said his kid suffers fron the same thing, he told us he's had similar problems when his kid injured himself.

he then proceded to tell the people that had gathered round that we were not bad parents, but parents of a diagnosed dissabled child, and that we know whats best for her.

he also told the man that called our daughter a "spaz" that he would be arrested if he ever called anyone that again


sorry for the long rant but i'm still angry

[DCM]

Some people are narrow minded..... but then, your child might of been able bodied and you were ignoring their need, and neglect, I guess you can't win either way, I suppose at least they were concerned of your childs plight, which is something I guess

[ashleyb4]

Some people are just nutters. They complain about the most stupid of things.

Working in a supermarket I have experianced some stupid ones.

A bloke comes to us and complains about the price of milk normally this wouldnt be so special but he thinks its to cheap he then repeats the same story every week he comes in and he will stand there talking for half an hour or so until you have to say to him im sorry but ive got to carry on with my work. It like seriously have you got nothing better to do than moan at me about the price of milk i cant do anythign about it.

Its just but out mind your own buisness...

Cant believe they actually called the police.

I hope this doesnt come out wrong im not the best person with words as most of you have found out but your obviously good parents as bringing up kids is difficult enough but the task is made more difficult when your child has an illness like your daughter has.

Just ignore then dude there just annoying people with nothing better to do.

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[jayst]

fair play to ya m8 . like peeps said narrow minded always think the worst . 1-0 to u lookin after ur kids

[Titch]

I'm disabled.. just physically.. some daft obscure bone condition..

Gets some stares.. There's 2 sides to the coin though, some people will mock or even be, not afraid, but not sure where to look or how to behave round me. and others just see straight through it and treat me like anyone else.

For every guy out there that calls your kid or me a spaz, there's 10 more that will come up and shake my hand and tell me how they admire the effort i put in to getting about.

You never knew the "spaz man" before, and he's obviously quite an ignorant person, so his comments shouldn't bother you. I know they do though. But you gotta treat those people the way they deserve.. If I reacted to every funny look, point and comment I'd run out of time for those who care. I've had 30 years of comments lol.. You will learn to laugh at them. You have to, or you'll get upset and they will bother you. When what's really important is you have 2 great kids who YOU care for.. Who gives a flying hoot what the rest of the world thinks..

They're entitled to their opinion, doesn't mean it's the right one, and I can't be arsed trying to change it. if that's the way they want to think, then i and you are better spending our time with the people who think the same way as us

I think it's sometimes tougher on those who are not disabled to see someone who is being ripped. My brother will sometimes ask - "that guy just said such a thing, want me to have a word?" (he's 6 foot, and sticks up for me no end lol) But i'll not even have noticed, bad people are just background noise, giving them your time just satisfies them.

Good on the officer re the comment though, sticks and stones and all that, but even so, words still hurt.

[SlowOne]

Sorry to hear your story. Should we be surprised? These days, everyone knows best - look at things on here!! If I listened to all the advice typed on here, then I've been doing RC wrong for over 30 years!! Sometimes it seems that they should be called anti-social networking sites!

Best of luck for the future, and I hope you find more people like the copper in your life, and less like the people who assumed they knew it all, and didn't.

[bodgit]

Its just the way the world is today. On holiday when the kids were younger up in Cayton Bay we noticed a young girl about 4-5 years old as everyone left was on her own. As we were the last family to leave the play area me and the wife asked her where her mum and dad were. Gone for a drink she said. We took her to reception to call for her parents. we were met by the mum and dad half pissed hurling abuse at us for interfering with their drinking time. We are entitled to a break they said , she,s safe out there why dont you mind your own effing buisness he ranted in my face so I decked him. The police were called I got cautioned he got off.

[traffman]

Im so sorry to hear about these incidents , my brother has paranoid schizophrenia , sadly the media tend to stir things up and label every one as an axe wielding maniac.

However if any one was to hurt him id certainly do time for it as would my father.

I worry when he is out as not every ones the same especially where he stays which is not the nicest part of Falkirk.