I agree, Yes we could have eased off. But Neil is right here, Many o' times have people tried to help him and offer advice but it just seems to go over his head?
http://www.oople.com/forums/showthread.php?t=29107
Here is a wanted thread from a while ago, countless offers popped up read up. - 8 offers? - I seriously doubt any of them was taken up - waste of time.