i'm not disputing the £600 is a high amount, but compared to others that have to pay a far higher % of their salary over, i don't think he will be in quite the harsh situation many others are.

i think 16-17 but with comments like that he wont be getting much older ....

Ash is only pissed cos its his mum who is after the £600 a week :woot:


Sorry ash, you lined yourself up for that one.


I dont need sympathy, its just the fact that she wants 40K a year for a 3 year old.

A lot of tha nation manage to run a whole family on half of that.

15% is still 15% regardless of the amount;)

Have you thought about the snip Lee :D

Look on the CSA website - on there is a calculator where you put in your monthly gross salary, and how many kids you are paying for and what their ages are. It then tells you roughly what the liability is.

£600 a week is stupid money unless your first name is something like "Sultan". I'm paying £79 a week for 2 girls aged 6 and 9 on an income of just under £30K. It's a big dent in the weekly finances but nothing like what your ex is after.

And it's best to come to a private arrangement so you pay her the money directly. That way if she doesn't declare it and still claims all her benefits she's the one that is going to get shafted by the CSA / HMRC. As my ex did.......

Oh and set up a Direct Debit or Standing Order if you go that route so you have proof of the money going over. Don't do it by cash whatever you do.

I think it's a bit late for that:cry:

i did try to do it the out of court way but she insisted upon it, which is a bit of a pain as my solicitor is after £200 an hour and she gets legal aid :o

October the 27th, you can officialy opt out of the CSA system and persue a private settlement.

Oooh sounds good to me, does that depend if it gets voted in at the Brca Agm on the 26th Oct :thumbsup:

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I dont need sympathy, its just the fact that she wants 40K a year for a 3 year old (quote)

Thanks lee my lass has seen your post and now thinks she will be better off divorcing me.
at least i will have more time for racing:thumbsup:

no he wont because he wont have any money(the wife)

now I'm not saying she's a gold-digger.... (etc)

After reading this thread again i'm glad me and my wife haven't got kid's:thumbsup:If we ever broke up it would be a straight split.

too right steve, if it wasn`t for the little one she would just be gone, luckily the house is mine and she has not contributed in any way so she cant get that.

It is the little one i feel sorry for and i know she will try every trick in the book to get what she can because she will be on legal aid. ;)

Doesnt matter if she hasn't contributed a penny to the house, she is legally entitled to half of everything (unless you signed a pre-nupt).

In a divorce they can also argue they a 'lifestyle' settlement i.e. they became accustomed to a certain lifestyle and why should they have to settle for anything less just because they are no longer with you

I seem to remember a recent case where the wife argued for half based on her non-financial contribution to the relationship over a number of years but the judge chucked it out. However, I am no legal expert and anyhoo it doesn't apply to our man here so we ought to draw a line under that facet of the discussion.

At the end of the day its a shame it didn't work out and as he says quite rightly it's the little 'un that will suffer as he didn't really ask to be involved and probably used a pawn in whatever games are played out in court.

Hell hath no fury and all that stuff.

Wayne,

Luckily we were not married, im not that daft :woot:

I know she will do her best to get what she can but i can limit my income which is nice :thumbsup:

the sister in law wasnt married to her ex but she lived with him for 5 years and as a common law wife she got half of every thing, and they can make you disclose you or your company full income,the csa are shits